Where is my mind?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
Where is my mind?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
Way out in the water<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
See it swimmin\u2019<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
Frank Black, The Pixies<\/p>\n
My kids show me the path forward<\/h4>\n
Lucia, book in hand, wanders into my room. One look at her face, and I toss my to-do list aside. Her book is\u00a0Ugly<\/em>\u00a0by Robert Hoge, a story of a boy born with a large, disfiguring tumor on the center of his face. His mother would not look at him for the first week of his life. His legs had to be amputated. Despite his challenges, he became a successful journalist and motivational speaker.<\/p>\n She is moved by the boy\u2019s bravery and courage.<\/p>\n I am amazed by her insight and thoughtfulness.<\/p>\n I kiss her good night.<\/p>\n I walk to the living room to check on my son. He is excited about watching Zion Williamson. Overcoming an injury, tonight is Zion\u2019s first game back. Max is inspired by his talent, work ethic, and especially his accomplishments at such a young age.<\/p>\n We sit together, father and son, and watch the game.<\/p>\n He talks.<\/p>\n I listen.<\/p>\n We connect.<\/p>\n My children are my priority. Their words matter. Our time together is the most important thing in the world, but there is one more email I need to send.<\/p>\n One more phone call to make.<\/p>\n One more problem to solve.<\/p>\n My kids are growing up too fast. In a few short years, they will go off to college. Work will still be there tomorrow. My kids are here now. I must make a conscious decision to be fully present. Physically, emotionally, and mentally. Close proximity is not enough.<\/p>\n Relationships need nourishment to thrive. They need to be fed with love and attention. We focus on the child benefiting from us to grow and flourish. Tonight, I set all aside to be with my kids. Lucia taught me that Robert Hoge did not dwell on his shortcomings. Max showed me that Zion did not give up after his injury. All of us can overcome our imperfections. Lessons learned. In this moment, the one who evolved from being fully present was me.<\/p>\n Thank you to P.S. I Love You <\/a><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>for publishing this article on Medium<\/a>.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Blog By: Dr. Jeff Livingston<\/a><\/p>\n Blog Photo By: Juliane Liebermann<\/a>\u00a0on\u00a0Unsplash<\/a><\/p>\nWhat we tell ourselves and what we do<\/h4>\n
I want to parent with intention<\/h4>\n
\nThe Pixies\u2019 song taunts me, \u201cWhere is my mind, way out in the water, see it swimming?\u201d<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/macarthurmc.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/water-400x304.jpg\")
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Do they need me or do I need them?<\/h4>\n
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